you can do...

          

                              When I watch this video, I remembered my past. Many people said to me, "You never become a trainer, because you have many limitations". Yes. I had and have limitations. But every limitation is an opportunity to stretch. Every stretching gives confidence and meaning in life.
                             Many people may insult or underestimate us, because normally they focus our weaknesses. But we should focus our strength not our weaknesses. When we extract gold from the ore, we get less gold and more waste. In which we focus.. gold or waste?
                           If we consider every insult as a fuel for motivation, we can create miracles in our life. Yes, duck can fly; deaf can become a great musician... Visualise this video, the main character is you. You can shine. 

how to make a new belief by new inputs

media

                       

relationship

                      (part- 3 of power of beliefs)                          

                                     "Be careful with your input"

                           We receive all the inputs (ideas, thoughts, information etc.) through our senses (most by eyes and ears). If we continuously receive the negative information, thoughts, visuals automatically the negative or limiting belief will be formed. If we receive more inspiring visuals, information, thoughts the positive or stretching belief will be constructed. Actually these are happened unconsciously. So we have to be very careful in our input.

                          Normally we get the most of input from 2 things. 1. The media (TV channels, newspapers, magazines, books, cinema, CDs, internet etc.) 2. The relationship (friends, family, community, groups, colleagues etc.). So we should take conscious decisions to choose the contents of the media and the quality of relationships.

                          When we interact with any media, choose the positive content from it. But unfortunately most of our media are filled with negative contents (kindly refer “positive journalism” and “Malayalam cinema and positive art” (January 2012) in this blog). For example our newspapers headings are filled with the news of corruptions, allegations, terrorist attacks etc. Our TV channels are presenting “ever crying” women through useless serials. If we receive this type of negative contents, it leads us to a negative belief. So choose the contents of media.

                          Another important source of input is your relationships. Relationships particularly your friends influence your beliefs unconsciously. So choose your friends. Strictly be with the positive people. Normally i am very conscious in choosing and maintaining my relationship. Your relationship influences your destiny. The great actor Sidney Poiter once said” life is like a morning walk. A person walk with you- will influence your speed of walk unconsciously”. It is absolutely correct. Choose right people to walk with you in life, because they influence the nature of your life.

challenge your reality

       

(part 2 of power of belief)

                      

                                  The human history made up of two things..  1. The incidents which broke the limiting beliefs (challenging the reality) 2. Making stretching beliefs (moving towards the possibility)… for example..

           --- "Running 1 mile in 4 minutes” was an impossible act till 1954.. That was a limiting belief of sports field, but Roger Bannister broke the belief and made a history.

         ---- “Reaching the top of the Everest” was an impossible task till 1953.. That was a limiting belief in mountaineering, but Edmund Hillary broke it.

         ---- “Flying machine heavier than air” was an impossible thing till 1903. But Wright brothers did not like to compromise with the limiting belief.

                       So never compromise with your limiting belief and the reality.. More examples for stretching beliefs which created history..

1.        American president John F Kennedy had a stretching belief in human walk on the moon.. That  belief led the human race from reality to possibility

2.       In 1963 great orator and leader of America, Martin Luther king Jr. had a stretching belief on the freedom and growth of the black in America. That belief created the history through the first African American president Barack Obama..

       So challenge your limiting beliefs and make new stretching beliefs, you can create a history.

(Rubber band and humans are same.. because "without stretching" both are useless)

Part 3- how to make a new belief… in next days

power of beliefs

          
            “The outer conditions of a person's life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs.”- (James Allen)
                     Our belief becomes our destiny. Because our thoughts, words and actions- everything come from our beliefs. Not only our self-belief, some social, cultural, ideological and religious beliefs also affect our life.  
                     Repeated thoughts, words and actions construct our beliefs. All mantras, rituals of any religion are repeatable things, why? Repeated things make a belief. If you make a belief, then everything is done by the belief.
                   There are two types of beliefs. One is limiting belief and another is stretching belief. Limiting belief makes reality of the person. But stretching belief creates possibility of the person. For example if you believe as “I was born in a poor family. So I became a poor man.", this belief makes the reality of poverty. This is a limiting belief. But if you belief as “I was born in a poor family, but I will be a millionaire", this belief inspires to work to become a millionaire. Here poor is a reality, but millionaire is a possibility. It is a stretching belief. But when you become a millionaire, the above said stretching belief becomes a limiting belief. That time if you believe as- “I am a millionaire, but I will be a multi-millionaire", this will be stretching belief. Shortly limiting belief leads to living in reality, stretching belief leads to stretching to possibility.
                  Great life is a progressive movement from reality to possibility. Most of the people are playing in the reality. Playing in reality is a method of surrendering with the surrounding or situation. But moving towards possibility is act of challenging their surrounding or situations. Moving beyond reality is a very courageous act.
                  Observe the children; normally they always try to break the boundaries of reality. For example 10 months old child does not know to walk (that is their reality), but they are always trying to walk (that is a progressive step towards possibility). So every child in every action, he or she challenges the reality and moves towards possibility, because every child born with stretching beliefs. But most of the parents or elders repeatedly pollute the child as- "living in reality is a method of living in peace". This is a very big blunder. In my opinion this peace is a deadly one. We should not live as breathing dead bodies. Living in reality is a method of non-taking risk. Stretching promotes taking risk. Actually limiting belief is escapism from life. So the limiting belief is a sin in life and stretching belief is the soul of life.
(part 2 of this post- challenge limiting beliefs- in next day.... )

past- handle with care

           
           "Telling future by looking at the past = Driving car by looking in the rear view mirror".- Herb Brody
            Every human being is affected by his past. Most of the people are wasting their present due to the negative impact of their past. If we are wasting the present, actually we are wasting the future. So if we are not ready to handle the past correctly, we will waste both of our present and future. Actually the great truth is "we never do any corrections in the past". That means we don't have any, any control over the past. Then why do we worry about the uncontrollable thing. But we should know that the present is in our control. If we control the present, we can control the future also.
Normally we had two types of experiences in our past. 1. Positive or Constructive experiences, example business success, passing exams, good relationships etc..2. Negative or Destructive experiences example business failure, failing in exams, broken relationships etc... In ordinary lives, the negative experiences affect their present negatively. But in great lives, their negative experiences make great positive impact in their life because negative experience+ learning = positive impact. Negative experiences give more chance to learn. Formula is 

     in ordinary people-----------   negative experience in the past = negative impact in the present, 

     in great people-   negative experiences in the past+ learning = positive impact in the present. 
The only difference is learning. So consciously we have to treat our past as a learning opportunity. Normally we ask with our friends "how is today?", actually we have to ask "what do you learn today?". Because learning+learning+....+learning= life

      Practical step;   Make a life journal. In that journal we have to write daily at least one learning from the day. Some learning may be repeated. These repeated learning become our part of the life.

           A story-- A man was losing  gradually his eye sight and his memory. He consulted a doctor. The doctor diagnosed him. The doctor said "your disease is a peculiar one, so you have to choose either eye sight or memory, you don't get both. The man preferred the eye sight. The doctor asked "why do you prefer eyesight?". He replied eyesight helps to know "where i am going to", memory helps to know "where i have been". Where i am going to is more important than Where i have been.

             In our country most of the people have memory but they have no eye sight...

find the great in you

                        Every human being has unlimited potential. We can not predict or underestimate the human capability.  Many predictions which were limiting the human potential became the blunders in the history.  I can give many examples for it.
1. Radio- " Radio has no future"- Lord Kelvin, president, Royal Society of London, in 1897.
2. Radio- "The wireless music box has no imaginable commercial value. who would pay for a message sent to nobody in particular?"- David Sarnoff's associates, in response to his urgings for investment in the radio in 1916.
3.Telephone- "This is too many short comings to be seriously considered as a means of communication. The device is inherently of no value to us".- Western Union internal memo, 1876
4. Talking cinema- "Who the hell wants to hear actors talk?"- Harry Warner, Warner Brothers, 1927
5. Plane- "Heavier than air- flying machines are impossible"- Lord Kelvin, president, Royal Society , London,in 1895
6. Computer- "I think there is a world market for may be five computers"- Thomas Watson, chairman IBM in 1943
7.Moon Voyage- "Man will never reach the moon regardless of all future advances"- Dr. Lee De Forest, inventor of the vacuum tube.
8.The Beatles- "We don't like their sound and guitar music is on the way out"- Decca recording co. rejecting the Beatles in 1962.
9. Lata Manngeshkar- "Singing is not your cup of tea"- Sashadhar Mukherjee, the producer of the film"Shaheed"in 1948.
10. Xerox machine- In 1940s Chester Carlson's idea was rejected by 20 companies. after 7 years of rejections, in 1947 accepted- that idea was Xerox machine.
                   So if anybody in the world- who may be your father, mother, teacher, friend, brother- underestimates you, kindly reject their statements because those are their opinions, not facts. The fact is "Human potential is unpredictable". So find your potential and make a history. There was a great Gandhi in Mohandas, great Buddha in Siddhartha, great Vivekanandhan in Narendran. Like this, a great "____", in you and me..The great social work is to find "the great" in us.. 

there is no physical barriers... only mental barriers

Watch this video... Then we should ask ourselves "do we have any limitations or obstacles in life". We are always trying to say excuses and complaints in life. In Nick's life, he do not complaint, but he compliments the life. Do you complaint or compliment?

Malayalam cinema and Positive art

                            Cinema is one of  the famous art form. Cinema is not only an entertainment. It should be as "enter + attainment" means it should encourage the viewers to attain something or big thing in life. Most of our film makers focus on revenge, love(maram chutti premam), politics, action etc.... but we have large empty space for positive films such as " The pursuit of happiness", "Akeelah and the Bee" and "Rocky" series -which gives inspirational thoughts and hope on the life. Unfortunately in my knowledge, we can not see any such Malayalam films in this category.  
                            Recently I watched a Malayalam movie " Swapna Sanchari" . I regretted so much because i wasted my 3 hours and some money... Actually it is not a feature film, it is a worst melodrama. One more dangerous thing, this film gives a very negative message " High dream or  aim leads to tragedy". It is a blunder message. High dream or aim is very necessary for success. A big dream  helped a mimicry boy from perumbavoor to become a good  actor of Malayalam, Mr Jayaram (hero of film). High dream is necessary to a Kamalluddin Muhamed was born in a village-Mathilakam to become a top Malayalam film director Mr.Kamal (director of the above said film). Then  why they promote the de motivational messages to the society.

                            In that film, big dream is not the reason for the tragedy. The reason for the tragedy is unaccountability of Money and Time. Most of the Malayalees have no accountability in Money and Time, but the accountability is very necessary  for success. In the film, makers should teach that accountability and the lessons from the mistakes which were made by him. Instead of this they teach a useless deadly attitude of non risky approach. Low aim and non exploration of human potential -both are social crimes. Actually this film encourages for that crime. We have to make a space for positive films. Our film makers kindly learn something from superstar Rajnikanth's films. We can see some attempts in other languages, to make positive films such as Black, Guru etc in Hindi, Rajni films in Tamil.
                  

Three days ago I watched another film "Beautiful". It gave some hope regarding positive films.It is not a pure motivational film. But it creates an inspirational feeling on life. The main characters demonstrate the positive approach in the whole film. Particularly the character Stephan Louise draws the optimism, the hope and the beauty in life. His expressions and dialogues, everything show that faith. Congratulations for Mr. Jayasurya (as Stephen Louise) and Mr. Anoop Menon (good script). We have to make more positive films to break the Malayalee's negative mindsets.  

positive journalism

                  most of the people think that negative incidents (accident, divorce, rape, assassination, political revenges, allegations, corruption etc) become the 'news' in the media. our media are filled with the negative news. we can see another type of journalism- positive journalism- in the western countries particularly America. positive journalism covers positive, constructional and inspirational incidents and stories.
                  in Kerala consciously we have to develop the positive journalism, because we are top in number of suicides. normally we say that Kerala is highly educated state. then why we are top in suicides? why we escape from life? the truth is we are not a highly educated state... actually we highly graduated state. education is entirely different from graduation. our media should take the role to teach the education to the malayalees because typical malayalee blindly believe the media. so our news papers and channels should allot some space for positive journalism to inspire the people. it will help him to make a spark in his life... in America we can see such magazines like "success magazine".